Breaking Away from Ungodly Soul Ties
Grayson first met Heather right after high school just before he left home for college. A mutual friend introduced them, and shortly after, they went out on their first date. Although Heather was a Christian, she fell in the trap of partying and drinking, to feel a sense of belonging to her circle of friends. Grayson, on the other hand, was new to the Christian faith, but he had this insatiable quest to grow deeper in his walk with Christ. Beneath the “life-of-the-party” image Heather had built for herself, she was struggling to find her true identity and fell in the trap of innocently trusting her wayward friends without ever questioning their motives. Grayson grew closer to Heather and soon they were best friends, which culminated in multiple dating activities. Their situation got a lot more wild and interesting and soon they began engaging each other sexually, and that continued while Grayson was in college. Soon, Grayson felt convicted to end things with Heather before it got out of hand, but he struggled to find the right approach.
How Are Soul Ties Formed? Basic Reasons
Soul ties can be broken down into two categories- godly and ungodly. The godly type is when two individuals, specifically a man and a woman are joined together in the holy institution of marriage.
7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[a] 8 and the two will become one flesh.’[b] So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
The ungodly type is formed when a person has sexual exchanges with another individual outside of marriage. Ungodly soul ties breaks the soul apart and the very core of one’s being, making it difficult for an individual to move on from past hurts and build relationships with others.
1 Corinthians 6:16
Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”[a]
Young folks sometimes have the tendency of making rash decisions and choices, which they regret later on. They engage in activities such as wild partying, sex and drugs for the thrill, and sense of belonging it creates within a circle of friends, classmates or colleagues. Peer pressure forces such people to partake in activities to make them look cool or feel part of their group. Nonetheless, some young people feel convicted because deep down they know that is essentially not who they are. As they grow older, they break away from their childish ways and make smarter choices in the areas of finding jobs, a suitable life partner, and taking care of their families among others.
Making Vows, Agreements and Commitments:
Soul ties can also be created through verbal agreements and promises one person makes to another. There is a binding factor and consequences when a vow is broken.
2 When a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.
Idolizing A Person:
Idolizing a person could also lead to the formation of a soul tie due to the fact the celebrated individual is held to a dangerously high esteem and elevated to a level they truly do not belong. It leads to a form of mental arrest because the idol captivates the mind of his or her subject and until that yoke is broken, it could have serious effects on the latter.
How To Break Away From Soul Ties
1) Repent of all sins tied to that person
After falling into the sin of adultery or fornication, or any other related issues, it is imperative that you turn away from those sins through the help of the Holy Spirit and receive grace, mercy and forgiveness from God in order to completely walk away from the bondage the soul tie puts you in. Forgive yourself and turn away from your evil ways to enjoy your freedom in Christ.
2) Forgive the other party of any wrongdoings against you
If you are still holding on to anger, bitterness and unforgiveness against the person you’re bounded to, you have to let it all out and deal with it once and for all so that chapter is fully behind you. Forgive that person from the depth of your heart.
3) Repudiate any vows or promises made with the other person
It is very important to reverse any promises you and the other person made to each other in Jesus’ name. The Bible states in Proverbs 18:21 that: The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Since those promises were made verbally, it is necessary to renounce them verbally to cancel whatever negative effects or power it holds.
4) Destroy any gifts or items exchanged with or received from that individual
Gifts serve as memory tokens we receive from or exchange with others, therefore it has the potential to hold a soul tie in place. In order to get out of such a relationship, it is important to destroy all gifts or keepsakes to signify that it no longer holds and it will be left behind in the past.
5) Courageously cut off and renounce all ties with the person in question in Jesus’ name
The next step is pray for the strength and courage to renounce and walk away from the relationship for good. It is not the easiest thing to do but once we allow God and the Holy Spirit to lead the way, it makes the burden so much lighter. A prayer of declaration is all it takes for the yoke to lose its hold. In Amos 3:3, the Bible poses this question: Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? In the same light, it is necessary to agree in spirit with God and the Holy Spirit to break the soul tie forever- that is where the ultimate power generates from to give you the much desired liberation. Let the prayer originate from the bottom of your heart.
Finally, say this prayer:
“Dear Lord, I come before your holy presence and I renounce and break myself away from any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ________(mention the person’s name), and I do so in the powerful name of Jesus, my Lord and personal savior. Amen!”
God loves you!