Love is… KIND and NOT RUDE!
Welcome to Day 2 of our “Love Is…” Series. I hope it is helpful and that you are learning something new, or at least brushing up on what you already know. If you have any comments or questions, please feel free to either email me or put a comment in the section below.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Kind & Not Rude
Let’s define the word kind. According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the word has the following definitions:
- of a sympathetic or helpful nature
- of a forbearing nature: gentle
- arising from or characterized by sympathy or forbearance
- of a kind to give pleasure or relief
Now, what does it mean to be rude? From the same source, here are the following definitions of the word:
- lacking refinement or delicacy
- ignorant, unleashed
- inelegant, uncouth
- offensive in manner or action: discourteous
- uncivilized, savage
- coarse, vulgar
Kindness is a character trait. It’s a trait that determines how people also respond to you. Are you respectful to people? How do you treat complete strangers? Do you greet them with a warm heart or do you treat them anyhow? If you are not able to be kind, then how can you say that you know what love is. A portion of love comes from kindness. Kind people are courteous to anyone that may come their way whether or not they like them.
Now think about how it feels when someone treats you in a rude manner. This can always be compared to customer service. If you call your mobile phone provider and they put you on hold and then later tell you that you owe an excess amount of money on your bill, you would be pissed off. You would probably then proceed to yell at them and explain why you shouldn’t owe that amount of money. They go on to tell you that there’s no way out of that invoice and so you have to pay the money or else they will cancel your service. You proceed to yell at her and tell her how stupid the phone provider is. Does this sound familiar to anyone? Okay, so you hang up on them. Imagine you were on the receiving end of that phone call and you were sitting there explaining that the charges incurred are beyond your control and that you cannot do anything to change it. Would you feel good if someone reacted to you by yelling and later hanging up the phone on you? I’m sure you wouldn’t feel too well and I can guarantee that you would tell someone about it because it would literally mess up a portion of your day.
What if you decided to handle that situation in a kind manner, knowing what it may possibly feel like to be on the receiving end of the phone call? Do you think that would make life a bit more pleasant for everyone involved? Always take a moment to put yourselves in the shoes of someone else and think before you make a rash decisions to react based on your emotions. I think this is the key to controlling whether you give someone the kind side of you or the rude side. Take a moment to think about your reaction. Yesterday, we learned about patience. Being patient, you cannot make hasty decisions and a huge part of being patient is to wait without complaining. Things go wrong all the time. It’s not worth it to put out negative energy to any and everyone just because you cannot regulate your emotions.
Take some time to think about it. If you feel that you need to re-evaluate the way you address people, then do so. It’s better that you identify something and make the stride to change it or improve.
Be KIND/NOT RUDE in your relationship: The purpose of your relationship is to get to know our mate and head towards marriage. Does your mate want to get married to someone who is not kind? Do you think that they will introduce you to their family if you are disrespectful and rude? Think again, because your relationship will not go very far. One of the first things someone says when they describe a person is whether or not they are nice. First impressions last and they hold the standard of how you should behave for the rest of the relationship. If you think you are going to fool someone with the first impression and then go ahead to continue with rude behavior, trust and believe that they will leave you because you will no longer be the person they developed an interest in from the onset. If they decide to be foolish and stay in the relationship with you, know that they will always bring it up when you disagree. They will say, “I remember when I first met you…what happened to that person?” Is that love? I can guarantee you that it isn’t.
Be KIND/NOT RUDE in marriage: I have mentioned and will continue to mention that your spouse is an extension of yourself. When you disrespect your spouse, you disrespect yourself. When you don’t make it a point to care for your spouse, you are allowing your own self to become sick. Let’s be kind to our spouses. Times will get rough and you will not always see eye to eye, but don’t use that as an opportunity to be rude or say a sarcastic remark towards your spouse. The words you say can never be taken back, and when you think all is well, those same words will come back to bite you and cause a rift in your relationship. If you can’t be kind to your spouse, you might want to ask yourself why you got married in the first place. Did you understand love when you got married? It’s not too late to learn if that is the case.
Be KIND/NOT RUDE in life: The example I first mentioned had to do with Customer Service. We all have different occupations, and should take kindness into account when we are serving. Yes, I said “serving”. A lot of us don’t realize that technically, we are servants; not so much in a negative manner, or maybe it can be negative, but we are helping people in some type of way when we go to work. If you claim you are not helping anyone, you are helping your founder build his lifestyle, and so that would make you a servant. It’s not bad being a servant because God was also a servant. He took His job seriously and came to the aid of all mankind through signs, wonders, miracles and sacrificing His life for us. God was kind to all; even those who were beneath Him and/or treated Him with disrespect, but his treatment towards those people did not change. He treated everyone He served with compassion. The Lord tells you to work as if you are working for the Lord. God sees all. He sees you when you are doing half of the job and not correctly doing the remainder. He sees you when you spend all of your work time on your cellphone. Let’s work as if we are working for God and we will see a change in the way we do our work and especially in the way we treat others that we are working with.
A lot of us are struggling in life because we do not give. We do not care to be kind to those who are unfortunate. “What you’ve done for the least of Me, you’ve done for Me.” I think we all should consider ourselves to be “the least”. We don’t measure up to God in our natural lives. You’re not the only one that is going through a hard time. Others are struggling as well. If you have a roof over your head, is it not by the grace of God? If someone is on the street begging for money, assume that they really need it. Yes, they are people that will con you into thinking that they need money, but then go ahead to use it for drugs. Help them anyway. It’s clear that they are battling something that is beyond their control ESPECIALLY when they don’t have God in control.
Kindness starts at home. If you cannot be kind to those closest to you, then you have no business being kind to those who could care less about you. The bible tells pastors specifically that if they cannot have order in their own home, they should not step out and do the work of God. This doesn’t apply just to pastors, but to all of us. Charity and kindness begins at home. Hone your “love skills” with those you love and watch it transform your life. It will then spread over to every other area in your life.
God loves you.