Love is… NOT BOASTFUL OR PROUD!
Welcome to Day 4 of our “Love Is…” Series. So far, we’ve learned about patience, kindness, not being rude, and jealousy. I hope it is helpful and that you are learning something new, or at least brushing up on what you already know. If you have any comments or questions, please feel free to either email me or put a comment in the section below.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of the word boast includes:
- to puff oneself up in speech: speak vaingloriously
- to speak of or assert with excessive pride
- to possess and often call attention to (something that is a source of pride)
- to express too much pride in a person’s own qualities, possessions, or achievements
- to have and be proud of having
According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of the word pride includes:
- the quality or state of being proud
- inordinate self-esteem
- a reasonable or justifiable self-respect
- a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people
- a feeling that you are more important or better than other people
Pride is a disease. Pride is the only thing that will bring you down just as quickly as it brought you up. Having pride makes you selfish. It means that you only think about yourself in each equation, whether you’re shy or boldly acknowledging how great you are. I’m sure it may be a shock that being shy is also a form of pride. When you are shy, you’re literally only thinking about yourself. It’s a tough position to be in because we all get to that point. With shyness you’re always thinking, “what will they think about me?”, “what if they laugh at me?”, what if I don’t do a good job?” and so many other thoughts. The general consensus is that you are only concerned about yourself and not worried too much about the good impact you could make if you were to put your shyness away.
The bible looks down on pride. Several verses in the bible explain that those who are prideful will never amount to anything. View the following verses:
Proverbs 16:18– “Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall.”
Isaiah 5:21– “What sorrow for those who are wise in their own eyes and think themselves so clever.”
Proverbs 21:4– “Haughty eyes, a proud heart, and evil actions are all sin.”
Proverbs 28:25-26– “Greed causes fighting; trusting the Lord leads to prosperity. 26 Those who trust their own insight are foolish, but anyone who walks in wisdom is safe.”
Let’s not forget that God is the reason why we have the things that we have, whether we consider them big or small. You didn’t do anything. God did it all and you need to give Him the due respect and glory for how far He’s brought you. Yes, God may never have physically studied those books for you, but essentially He did. He gave you the mind that was allowed to process information. It’s not everyone that has the ability to do something like that. He gave you the ability to invent, the ability to use your hands for crafts, the ability to use your body for sports, the ability to use your voice for singing, and so much more. If you woke up one day and all that was gone, would you be able to bring it back with your own power? No, you wouldn’t. Let’s acknowledge God’s place in all of our successes.
2 Corinthians 10:17-18- “17 As the Scriptures say, “If you want to boast, boast only about the Lord.”[a] 18 When people commend themselves, it doesn’t count for much. The important thing is for the Lord to commend them.“
Selfishness, self-centeredness, and being boastful cannot be analyzed within the topics of relationships and marriage. With those issues, the relationship/marriage does not exist. It would be absolutely horrific if you allowed yourself to become married to someone who exhibited those traits to you beforehand. Oh, so maybe your mate wasn’t like that before you got married, but now they are. I believe that if you guys were reading your bible, praying TOGETHER and making your daily focus to “be more like God”, neither one of you would become selfish. Love is far from selfish. I feel like pride and self-centeredness becomes more prevalent when we are simply chasing after money and not God. You want to be on top at your firm, or you want to have the most sales within your business sector. If you’re not inviting God to be the head of all of those achievements, then you will become prideful. You will allow the praises of mere people to change your perspective of how life works for a Christian. You’ll start to believe that you did all the work without the help of God, meanwhile it was God that was lifting you up with His hand. Don’t strengthen your position at the expense of other people. Your relationships are important. We are all here to help each other out, so don’t burn your bridges. You will need someone else one day.
2 Timothy 3:2-5– “2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. 3 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. 4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. 5 They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!”
2 Chronicles 26:16-20– “16 But when he had become powerful, he also became proud, which led to his downfall. He sinned against the Lord his God by entering the sanctuary of the Lord’s Temple and personally burning incense on the incense altar. 17 Azariah the high priest went in after him with eighty other priests of the Lord, all brave men. 18 They confronted King Uzziah and said, “It is not for you, Uzziah, to burn incense to the Lord. That is the work of the priests alone, the descendants of Aaron who are set apart for this work. Get out of the sanctuary, for you have sinned. The Lord God will not honor you for this!” 19 Uzziah, who was holding an incense burner, became furious. But as he was standing there raging at the priests before the incense altar in the Lord’s Temple, leprosy[a] suddenly broke out on his forehead. 20 When Azariah the high priest and all the other priests saw the leprosy, they rushed him out. And the king himself was eager to get out because the Lord had struck him.”
Don’t make God humble you by force. Acknowledge Him in every way of your path and let Him show you the next step to take. Don’t put it all on yourself and give yourself the glory. You won’t win. You’ll never win.
God loves you.