Welcome to Day 9, our final day in the “Love Is…” Series. So far, we’ve learned about patience, kindness, not being rude, jealousy, pride, being boastful, being demanding, irritability, forgiveness and truth. I hope it is helpful and that you are learning something new, or at least brushing up on what you already know. If you have any comments or questions, please feel free to either email me or put a comment in the section below.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
DON’T GIVE UP
Giving up is equivalent to quitting. You no longer want any part of whatever the situation is. According to Merriam Webster, “give up” is defined as:
- to yield control or possession of
- to desist from
- to declare insoluble or incurable
- to cease doing or attempting something especially as an admission of defeat
When you love, you are making a choice. It is a choice that you will continue to make each and every day. It’s not something that you throw away when you get annoyed or angry. You have to make the effort to keep on going. Love is tough. It’s not an easy thing to do. You may encounter people who do not want to accept your love, or maybe they just don’t know how, and it may discourage you, but love them anyway. In your relationships and future marriages, if you truly know that the person you are with is going to be your “forever”, make it a point to keep it going. Don’t give up and end your relationship over a minor disagreement. Love is greater than those little feuds. The devil never wants to see love succeed, because he knows that love is God, and so he will take the smallest things and use it to distract you and keep you from fulfilling your purpose as a couple. Don’t give him the chance. Catch yourself in those moments and redirect that anger towards the devil.
According to Merriam-Webster, “faith” is defined as:
- belief and trust in and loyalty to God
- firm belief in something for which there is no proof
- complete trust
- without question
There’s no room for doubt when God is concerned. You cannot lose faith. When you have faith, you believe that something is GOING to happen without the physical evidence that it will happen. We should always be able to trust God with no strings attached. God always knows what is best for us. He knows what we need and when we need it. Trust God’s timing. When it comes to life, learn to have faith in who God has created you to be. He doesn’t give talents and gifts to just anyone, He gives it with the hope that you will use it to bring glory to His name. If you can’t do anything with what he’s given you, what makes you think that He’ll add more to it? Don’t run for the husband when you haven’t been able to do much with the talent of music or writing or planning. Marriage is meant to bring glory to God. Make sure you are bringing glory to God in all the other aspects of your life first. “Love never loses faith.” In the faith game, seeing is NOT believing, but believing IS seeing. Trust God and have faith in what He will do in your life.
According to Merriam-Webster, “hope” is defined as:
- to cherish a desire with anticipation
- to desire with expectation of obtainment
- to expect with confidence
- to hope without any basis for expecting fulfillment
Faith and hope are a bit similar, but not exactly the same. You need hope in order to have faith. According to the bible in Hebrews 11:1, it says that “Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see.” Faith is the reality of hoping. When you hope, you don’t expect something to happen, however, it is required when having faith. Love is always hopeful. It means that love always wishes for the best. Hope can also be used for evil, but when love is concerned, we know that it is used only for good. Hope can be used in every aspect of life. In school, we hope for good grades on our tests and assignments. In relationships, we hope that we are with the right person. In marriage, we can hope that we’ll be able to purchase a house sooner than later. Hope is the gateway to faith. Without it, faith will not necessarily exist. Let’s get in the habit of always being hopeful. God is not in the business of disappointment. He will bring you what you need at the time you need it most.
According to Merriam-Webster, “endure” is defined as:
- to undergo (as a hardship) without giving in
- to regard with acceptance or tolerance
- to continue in the same state
- to remain firm under suffering or misfortune without yielding
When you endure, you keep going on regardless of how it makes you feel, whether that may be good or bad. You continue in whatever you have started. Endurance is necessary in every part of life and especially in love. You may show someone love and in turn they may stab you in the back, but with endurance, you continue to love them through it. When you enter a serious relationship or marriage, you will see different layers of your mate as time goes on. These layers will peel off every so often and you will be exposed to different characters and personalities that you were or were not aware of in the beginning, and through this, you endure. No one is perfect and everyone has their flaws, but you have to make the choice of loving them through it all. Commitment is not for convenience. God wouldn’t give you something that He didn’t deem fit for you.
Keep pushing forward. Don’t stop just because you have hit a bump in your relationship. Remember that love is a choice and not something you can turn on and off. The moment you make the choice to love, you are making the choice to continue forever.
God loves you.